Lavender

Are you listening to respond—or to understand?

Lavender pairs people for structured conversations and gives real-time feedback on Logic and Civility—so discussions stay productive.

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Why this matters

Why Think Lavender

The way we talk is breaking. Most online conversation rewards the loudest voices, not the most thoughtful ones—so nuance gets buried and people talk past each other.

0%
have permanently stopped talking to someone over politics
Public Agenda / USA Today / Ipsos (2021)
0%
of partisans rate the opposing party a “zero” on a 0–100 warmth scale (8% in 2000)
Pew Research Center (2020)
0%
say people are “quick to attack personally” in disagreements — only 24% say others listen
Pew Research Center (2019)
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How it works

Five steps, zero chaos

1

Set your stance & prefs

Set stance
Set stance
Paste summary
Paste summary
  • •Paste a 2–3 sentence summary (optional) → we auto-build an editable profile.
  • •Use sliders: tone, challenge level, civility goals.
  • •Select topics you’re open to discussing.
2

Get matched

Live match
Live match
Invite or search
Invite or search
  • •Our matcher pairs you with a thoughtful counterpoint using your stance + sliders.
  • •Or search/invite someone specific.
  • •Preview fit: topic overlap, level, civility target.
3

Reach out & schedule

Pick format
Pick format
Calendar & reminders
Calendar & reminders
  • •Choose 15-min Sprint, 30-min Classic, or 60-min Deep Dive.
  • •Start now or propose times; time zones handled.
  • •One-click calendar invites and reminders.
4

Have the conversation

Civility checks
Civility checks
Logic & articulation
Logic & articulation
  • •Civility scoring: flags personal attacks, raised voice, and interruptions.
  • •Logic scoring: evaluates claim structure, support, and common fallacies.
  • •Articulation & focus: clarity of phrasing and staying on topic.
  • •Real-time meters + prompts (e.g., “summarize before replying”).
5

Get feedback & grow

Evidence typing
Evidence typing
Argument timeline
Argument timeline
  • •Argument breakdown: maps claim → reasons → counters.
  • •Evidence labeled: statistical vs. anecdotal vs. expert/other across each point.
  • •Timeline view: follow your train of thought across turns & topics.
  • •Actionable next steps + trends, with a shareable recap.
Rewards that reinforce good habits

Level up your dialogue

Rankings

  • •Weekly leaderboards by topic and format.
  • •Match with peers near your rank for fair challenge.
  • •Private by default; opt-in to global boards.

Badges

  • •Civility milestones: no interruptions, no personal attacks, active listening.
  • •Topic mastery & breadth badges.
  • •Show on your profile and session recap.

Streaks

  • •Keep conversation streaks alive with gentle reminders.
  • •“Calm streaks”: consecutive sessions above your civility target.
  • •Smart catch-up windows so a busy day doesn’t reset progress.

Scores

  • •Composite across Logic, Civility, Articulation & Focus.
  • •Trendlines and percentiles vs. your peer group.
  • •Session XP unlocks new prompts and levels.
What we mean by “civil”

Civility, essentially

No personal attacks

  • Critique ideas, not people.
  • Avoid labels, insults, and name‑calling.
  • Use “I” statements to describe impact—not character.

No raising your voice

  • Keep volume and tone steady; let ideas carry the weight.
  • Pause and breathe when emotions spike.
  • Try a tone‑check: “Would you like me to slow down?”

No interrupting

  • Let the other person finish a complete thought.
  • Reflect back: “What I’m hearing is…” before replying.
  • Ask to jump in: “May I add something?”
Who it’s for

Built for curious people & groups

Citizens

  • •Learn the other side—without the pile-on.
  • •Prompts that nudge listening before replying.
  • •Match beyond your bubble, keep it civil.

Student orgs

  • •Run structured debates in minutes.
  • •Leader tools for topics, pairings & guardrails.
  • •Share session recaps to extend learning.

Teams

  • •Defuse disagreements before they stall work.
  • •Practice reasoning & feedback norms.
  • •Export insights to docs & retros.

Mediators

  • •Keep tense topics on the rails with live prompts.
  • •Neutral civility & logic meters for both sides.
  • •Shared recap everyone can agree on.

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